With the holiday season approaching, I realized how we can get triggered with our postpartum anxiety. Let’s talk about that for a minute now: Imagine that you are in a room full of people (some you may never have even met before…like Aunt Gerty’s BFF) for a family dinner. You have your adorable baby in tow and everyone and their mother wants to gobble her up; they want to hold her, feed her, maybe even kiss her (oh, boy..let’s save that for another post!) how does that make you feel?
Is your heart racing just thinking about that? It’s alright because I get that. Postpartum anxiety is a real (insert female dog word here) and it can make you want to run and hide indoors with your baby. Alone. Preferably with some Netflix and hot chocolate.
Now to get back to my scenario from before, what would YOU do in that predicament? Would you not say anything (even though your insides are as hot as lava and you are screaming obscenities)? Would you watch over every single person handling your baby like a worried Mother Goose? Would you kindly mention that your babe needs a diaper change and run away with her to the nearest bathroom to escape the infinity of hands laid upon her? Would you escape to the bathroom just to breathe…and cry?
Let’s talk about managing your postpartum anxiety this holiday season.
I want to help you manage your postpartum anxiety with some tips and words of encouragement (because I got you, mama!!!)
Decide if it’s the time to let it happen
Maybe this will be the first time taking your baby around so many new people and you don’t feel comfortable with it.
Will it be the first time that other people will hold your baby? Will you let it happen?
Setting up a game plan can help you determine what you’re going to do (yes– Aunt Gerty’s BFF can hold my baby or not. I’m going to baby wear the whole evening) knowing your decision can help ease your anxiety.
Write your anxieties down
What triggers your PPA? Write it all down so you can (not only) get it off your chest, but to understand your PPA a little bit better. Knowing what triggers you may help you start to overcome your PPA.
If you don’t like it for other people to change your baby’s diaper or to kiss her on the face, then establishing boundaries is key and it’s okay to let people know this.
You are your baby’s advocate.
Bring along a moral support buddy
If you’re unsure whether or not you can make it through the dinners or parties this year, bring along a moral support buddy.
A great moral support buddy can be your significant other or a trusted friend. Ask them to stay by your side throughout the event; even talk about using a code-word in case things get too heavy and you need to leave.
Meditate before those big dinner parties
Try to meditate before heading out to a family function– Headspace is a great app for meditation (and even better, it’s free!)
Meditating can calm and relax you… just what you need before facing families and big crowds.
Sit this one out
If you’re not feeling ready to face your family this holiday season, consider to sit this one out.
Remember: you know yourself, and your baby, better than anyone else. Choose to put yourself in a healthy and happy environment!
How can I help you face your family this holiday season?
Do you have any…
questions, comments, concerns, or just need to talk? I’m here. Reply back to me or find me on facebook.
I’m wishing you a happy and healthy holiday. Keep smiling~