26 Healthy Habits Real Moms do to Stay Happy

Hey there, mama! I see you. I know how stressed and exhausted you are– because you put everyone’s needs before your own and that can be so draining. I’ve learned that it’s sooo vital to my happiness and well-being to develop healthy habits.

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I set out on a quest– to find out which healthy habits other mamas do to stay happy, and I’ve received some phenomenal responses.

I’m going to share these real responses

But first….

get a refresher on how important self-care is for you.

26 Healthy Habits Real Moms do to Stay Happy

 

 

26 Healthy Habits Real Moms do to Stay Happy

 

1.

“I take a bath every Friday morning. I use essential oils, pour in some Epsom salts, I exfoliate my skin, shave my legs. To ensure I get my 30 minutes of peace, my 3 year gets screen time and I nurse my newborn and put her in her vibrating chair. I love my once a week self care ritual because on every other day of the week I take a really rushed shower.”

-Molly

 

I recommend Dr Teal’s epsom salt soaking solution.

2.

“Eating healthy.”

-Janis

 

3.

“It is vital to my happiness as a mom (and person!) to maintain strong connections with friends – particularly in person. I am so much more fulfilled, happy, and ready to be patient, silly, playful, and understanding if I have regular time with my mom friends!”

-Kelsey

26 Healthy Habits Real Moms do to Stay Happy

 

4.

“Getting up early before everyone else every morning, so I can have a quiet breakfast and get everything organized for my day before the crazy chaos begins.”

-Leidys T.

 

5.

I make time for myself away from the kids, the daily routine, and do something for myself. A pedicure, a massage, or some retail therapy.

-Shelbie Y.

 

6.

“A shower or bath to myself.”
-Jennifer H.
7. 

“Working out.”

-Amanda G.

26 Healthy Habits Real Moms do to Stay Happy

 

8.

“Cleaning.”

-Kayli

 

9.

“Taking time for myself and the things that I love every day, even if just for five minutes.”

-Emmielley D.

 

10.

“Taking walks with my family.”

-Candi

26 Healthy Habits Real Moms do to Stay Happy

 

11.

“Home cooked meals.”

-Brianna H.

 

12.

“Being able to put on my headphones and either take a walk or dance.”

-Laura P.

26 Healthy Habits Real Moms do to Stay Happy

 

13.

“I take an hour out side of the house once a week and just be me. I’m a work at home mom and it’s my alone time!”

-Jenni

 

14.

“I brush my teeth.”

-Joanie B.

15.

“Exercise (when I can make time and have the motivation and energy for it!).” -Genni

 

16.

“My husband and I have a regular weekend night sitter so that we can go on date nights at least twice each month. This habit has been fantastic not only for our marriage and staying connected, but also for my mental health and happiness. Just having the occasions to get dressed up and feel like a woman outside of “Mommy” has allowed me to maintain my sense of self. With four kids, it is all too easy to lose yourself in the parenting role so the date nights have been a game-changer for keeping me happy and healthy.”

-Caitlin from www.realmomrecs.com

26 Healthy Habits Real Moms do to Stay Happy

 

17.

“Eliminating toxins from my home. This keeps me energized, reduces illness and keeps my moods balanced.”

-Bri Pruitt from www.hippiedippiemom.com

 

18.

“Going on a brisk, 50 minute walk every morning.”

-Kelli F.

 

19.

“Taking some time away to get my hair done. It’s something I neglected for a while. Once I started getting it done I realized how much better I felt about myself because my hair looked good”

-Brenda

26 Healthy Habits Real Moms do to Stay Happy

 

20.

“I make time to play with them, even if it’s just 15 minutes. The one on one (or two) time is great for our family bond. Sometimes we craft, sometimes we dance together, or we play a short game of Uno. I always have some ideas for kids games. Really, 15 minutes of fun and laughter each day can make such a difference.”

-Tiana

 

21.

“Taking an evening walk with my daughter. I’m getting exercise and exposing her to the same routine.”

-Keyona from www.professionalmomma.com

 

22.

“CrossFit – 1 hour 2-3x a week is my “me time” and keeps me energized.”

-Danielle from www.workingmomapproved.com

 

26 Healthy Habits Real Moms do to Stay Happy

 

23.

“Taking time in the morning to exercise! It reduces stress & anxiety and gives me an energy boost that lasts all day.”

-Amy from themultitaskingmomlife.com 

 

24.

“Daily scripture study, even if it is just 5 minutes! It makes a HUGE difference in my patience level with my young children. And if it a particularly rough day, we will listen to gospel music in the background while we homeschool.”

-Tiffany T. from thecrazyshoppingcart .com

 

26 Healthy Habits Real Moms do to Stay Happy

25.

“It’s really hard to answer this with just one healthy habit! But if I have to choose I think the biggest thing that postively impacts my happiness is making time for myself and my relationship with my husband. We’ve kept up a regular weekly or at least monthly date night since our first kid was born 15 years ago. The key for me has not been to hope I can squeeze in a moment alone for myself but to actively *make* the time for it and prioritize my own needs. I began training my kids when they were little to respect mommy’s quiet time, even if that meant just 15 minutes for me to read a book. Of course I love my children deeply but the universe does not revolve around them!”

-Liane from talesofascrunchymom.com

 

26.

“I take social media breaks when I’m feeling depressed or overwhelmed. I have found that reducing my time on facebook has greatly affected my mood….in a positive way.”

-Laura from excuse-the-mess.com

 

 

There you go– 26 healthy habits real moms do to stay happy. What do you do to stay happy? I would love to hear about it in the comments!

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5 Essential Oils That Moms Use to Battle Stress

I love essential oils. I know, it’s crazy—  I never expected to be so into the whole oily thing but once I tried them, I wonder why I was always so against them. Really. They can do wonders, ESPECIALLY to help fight off the moodies and the stress life. Aka Mom Life.

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I’m always on the hunt for (natural) ways to help reduce my stress…. and essential oils may be the best tool for that. I found 5 oily moms and I asked them which essential oils that they recommend to help battle off stress.

But first….

 let’s get to the very basics.

What are essential oils?

An essential oil is a natural product extracted from a single plant species. Not all plants produce essential oils but the plants that do, the essential oil may be found in the roots, stems and leaves. Once the aromatic chemicals have been extracted, they are combined with a carrier oil to create a product that’s ready for use. *healthline.com

Essential oils are concentrated plant extracts that retain the natural smell and flavor, or “essence,” of their source.

 

How to use essential oils.

There are quite a few ways that you can use essential oils (contrary to what I used to believe, it does not include slapping some oil onto your body).

 

On your body.

When applying essential oils on your body, use a carrier oil.

It’s always a good idea to avoid putting an essential oil straight on your body– using a carrier oil will help avoid skin sensitivities because an essential oil alone is too strong to use straight.

I choose coconut oil as my carrier oil when applying essential oils on my kids or myself.

 

Diffuse them.

Buying an essential oil diffuser  was the best decision I made last winter. My kids went through bouts of the ickies, and diffusing oils like orange and oregano helped shorten the duration of their colds by so much.

Diffusing oils is a great way to have your home smelling amazing– without all of the yucky chemicals that candles or scented wax have.

Here is my favorite oil diffuser that is under $20! I use this in the our bedrooms.

 

Clean with them.

Ditch those yucky chemicals, because you can also clean with essential oils.

I use lemon essential oil in my steam mop, orange to polish wood surfaces and oregano to disinfect.

Okay, now let’s get to the good stuff.

 

 

5 Essential Oils That Moms Use to Battle Stress

 

 

 

 

1. Ylang-ylang/  YL ‘Peace and Calming’

5 Essential Oils That Moms Use to Battle Stress

Andrea says:

“ylang ylang is one of the key ingredients in Young Living’s “peace and calming” which is one of my favorite anti-stress oils.. when i have sleep problems it usually zonks me right out when diffused. So i pulled YY out of it because studies have shown it’s a great anxiety reducer and started using it specifically for stress/anxiety mixed with other complementing oils like Lavender or Tangerine”

you can purchase YL’s Peace and Calming below:

 

 

2.Peppermint/eucalyptus mix

5 Essential Oils That Moms Use to Battle Stress

Jamie says:

“This mix also takes my migraines away!”

you can purchase peppermint essential here here:

you can purchase eucalyptus essential oil here:

 

 

3. Orange

5 Essential Oils That Moms Use to Battle Stress

Molly says:

“Smelling orange essential oils gives me an instant boost of happiness. Orange smells cheery and clean and vibrant to me. I associate it with good memories of eating oranges fresh from trees in Florida as a child.”

you can purchase orange essential oil here:

 

 

4. Rose

5 Essential Oils That Moms Use to Battle Stress

Genni says:

“Rose essential oil is another fav. It’s feminine smell is known to elevate the mind and create a sense of well-being!”

you can purchase rose essential oil below:

 

5. Citrus mix {bergamot, orange, lime, grapefruit and lemon oil}

5 Essential Oils That Moms Use to Battle Stress

Jennifer says:

“I use a blend called Cheer up Buttercup with bergamot, orange, lime, grapefruit and lemon essential oils. It’s the combo of stopping to apply, then breathing in the sent to focus on positive thoughts.”

you can purchase the CHEER UP BUTTERCUP blend here:

 

So there you have it– 5 essential oils that moms use to battle stress. Will you try any of these? Let me know in the comments!

 

*Resource:
Healthline.com- What Are Essential Oils and Do They Work? https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/what-are-essential-oils#section1

 

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Why So Angry? The Deal on Postpartum Rage and it’s Link to PPD

It’s lunch-time and my boys are sitting in their high-chairs, munching on the remnants of cut-up PB&J and apple slices.

My youngest begins to slam his sippy-cup up and down on his tray-table, declaring that he wants more food.

I’m in the process of cutting up the rest of the apple when he keeps knocking his cup up and down, up and down. It’s getting louder and now he is screaming.

“Okay, I’ll be right there.” I declare while cutting up the rest of the apple.

I can feel my blood begin to boil.

He is still screaming and now my oldest wants to join in.

I can feel my face getting hot, my heart is racing now.

“MAAAA-MAAAA!!!”

I try to remember to breathe

deep breaths…. 1…2…3.

 

That is an example of daily life in my household. I have two toddlers under three years of age, so of course there will be chaos and tantrums. And it’s difficult.

It wasn’t until after my second son was born when I began to experience the rage. It would feel like literally every-thing bothered me. Every-thing annoyed me. The things that used to have my patience and understanding would suddenly make me snap and growl. I felt like a chihuahua; always ready to snap and bite someone’s ankle.

I felt totally and completely awful for snapping and I would have immediate regret– yet, no matter how hard I tried to maintain my rage, it was very hard to control.

What was happening to me?! This was supposed to be the BEST time of my life….but why am I so angry??

I’ve never been such a ragey person before so this was totally not like me. I needed answers and I needed to know how to control it because I was acting (and felt) like a monster. A momster, if you will.

 

 

 

 

The deal on postpartum rage.

Maybe you are dealing with the very-same angry and rage like I have once experienced and you want to know why this is happening to you.

Postpartum rage is like postpartum depression’s close cousin. If you have postpartum depression, then you will most likely experience the rage that comes along with it.

 

 

5 thing i want moms with postpartum depression to know

I want you to know these five things if you are going through postpartum depression.

 

 

What does postpartum rage look like?

Postpartum rage can be found in many ways– here are three of my personal examples.

It can be the unexpected outburst. I’m walking the dog and she won’t stop pulling. “stop pulling! can you just stop it?!” The fact that the words did come out of your mouth take you back and you instantly regret it.

It can be the lack of patience. My four-month old won’t go back to sleep; he’s making soft whimpers and stirring. “can you please just go back to sleep?! please stop dropping your binkie!!”

It can be the anger. My husband does something minimal but to me, it’s much more than that. I say some choice words that I soon regret but the damage has already been done.

And then I’m left thinking, “what is wrong with me?”

That is just a glimpse at what my postpartum rage looked like. I felt like I had a ticking time bomb attached to me and at any second, I could explode.

 

A few ways I’ve managed the rage.

The moment I found out why I was always so angry was the moment I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders; learning that I had postpartum depression was the puzzle piece I had been searching for because remember: postpartum rage is postpartum depression’s close cousin.

Now that I knew why I was feeling this way, I had a better grip on understanding why I felt so angry.

 I want to share with you some of the ways I managed my postpartum rage.

  • identity what’s making you angry and learn how to prepare yourself for those moments.
  • talk to your doctor and express your concerns. you may also be dealing with postpartum depression and you don’t have to go through it alone!
  • take much needed breaks and remember that it’s okay to take care of you. I’ve put together a list of some great self-care ideas that you can begin to utilize in your every-day life.

 

 

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You are not alone!

I felt so much relief once I learned that, not only was my postpartum rage common, but that I wasn’t the only mom to experience it.

Phew.

If you’re currently beating yourself up about your postpartum rage, I want you to know that you are not alone in this.

I’m no-where near perfect and I still have my moments, but I feel like I have greatly progressed over the last year and with that being said, I want to tell you that the postpartum rage will not last forever.

You can get past this and fight like the badass mother that you are.

 

Have you experienced postpartum rage? I want to hear all about it! Shoot me a comment or be a guest writer. <3

 

Resources.

a description of postpartum rage can be found here.

 

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Why Self-Care is Important for Every Mom

It can be something as small as making sure you drink enough water and take your daily medication, to going to your yearly dental exam.

Not sure where to start?

Trust me, mama, I now all about not making enough time for myself. It’s tough when you’re a busy mom! I have two toddlers to chase after…I can barely go to the bathroom alone!

Since I became a mom, I strongly believe now that self-care is important for every mom.

I’m an example of why self-care is important for every mom.

I’ll use myself as a good example of why every mom needs some self-care in her life.

After I became a mom, I stopped taking care of myself. I would feel guilty if I did ANYTHING just for ME. Yes, true! I would consume all of my time and energy into my newborn baby boy…and when I would practice self-care, well, the guilt would be so unbearable that I wouldn’t do anything else for myself months and months later.

This was a CRAZY thought in my head, but– I believed that doing things for MYSELF made me a bad mom.

After my second son was born, I was diagnosed with postpartum depression. I would literally be running on E, yet I would STILL be giving my family every last bit of my energy and happiness. That was the ultimate recipe for disaster, and it made me a very moody mama!

I started taking care of myself and I was slowly brought back to life….I began to make MYSELF a priority again!

 

Self-care can be easy.

I will tell you that self-care is easier than you may have imagined, mama.

Are you stuck and need some self-care inspiration? Or, maybe you need that extra nudge to start doing something for yourself.

 

I put together a list of some really great ideas for self-care.

It’s totally free!

Start taking care of yourself and find out why self-care is important for every mom.

After you tried my ideas, please let me know what you think!

 

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The Truth About Postpartum Anxiety and How to Cope

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’m going to be honest with you right now. My life dramatically changed after having babies. I know, huge shocker, right? But no, really. It did. In more ways than one.

If you’ve read my story about my struggle with postpartum depression, then you know my struggle there; but something I haven’t really talked about yet is postpartum anxiety.

 

 

You may be wondering: what is that? What is postpartum anxiety? How is it different from regular anxiety?

I’m here to share that with you today– because, well, I didn’t fully understand either. I never even knew that postpartum anxiety was a thing that, you know, moms get.

Postpartum anxiety is a real-thing and it actually affects way more moms than I thought. In fact, postpartum anxiety is more common than postpartum depression and not enough women know about it.

What is postpartum anxiety?

 

 

When is it not just worrying?

Being a mother means taking on the burden of responsibility and caring for another life. So, It’s common to worry about things like your sick baby or the dirty laundry you didn’t get to yet– but what makes your worrying cross the line to PPA?

According to parents.com, postpartum anxiety is when you dread everyday situations such as driving (with baby inside your car) or if panic attacks come that disrupt your whole day. It’s when your constant fear of harming your baby play over in your mind.

How does postpartum anxiety happen?

Postpartum anxiety happens thanks to the hormonal shift after giving birth and the various triggers that follow– sleep deprivation, caring for a newborn, and lifestyle changes. Any new mom can experience postpartum anxiety but those with a family history of anxiety or a previous experience with depression are especially vulnerable.

How to get help for PPA.

If postpartum anxiety is affecting your daily life to the point where you find it difficult to care for your child, please reach out and seek help– you are not alone!

Resources:

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Postpartum Progress is an amazing resource for finding a specialist near you.

 

How to cope with PPA.find a trusted person to confide in.

*find a trusted resource and reach out.

*medication/talk therapy.

*meditation/deep breaths.

*write your thoughts in a journal.

*know that you’re not alone!

YOU are not alone.

Maybe you’ve been feeling a little ‘off’ since your baby was born….you know, not quite yourself; your more anxious, worry-some, and panicky. Perhaps you even feel like you’re the only one to ever feel like this and if you told someone you’re thoughts and worries, they may label you as crazy. OR, maybe you just assumed that these feelings are NORMAL for a new mom {or mom in general}.

I was in your shoes. I know the feelings. I’m here to tell you that you’re not crazy and you’re not alone. Postpartum anxiety is normal and treatable. There are resources and there is help out there. It won’t be like this forever.

IMPORTANT PHONE NUMBERS:

From postpartum.net,

Postpartum Support International is not a crisis hotline and does not handle emergencies. People in crisis should call their physicians, their local emergency number or one of the National Emergency Hotlines listed below.

CRISIS TEXT LINE:

  • Text HOME to 741741 from anywhere in the USA, anytime, about any type of crisis.

 

National Suicide Prevention Hotline and Website

  • 1-800-273-8255
  • www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org Call for yourself or someone you care about; free and confidential; network of more than 140 crisis centers nationwide; available 24/7

 

 

 

 

 

 

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