My Foolproof Potty Training Tips for Toddler Boys

Ever since I found out I was having a baby boy, one of the things that stuck in my head was: “potty training boys is SO MUCH harder than girls!” Obviously, I’m a boy mom of 2, so I have no idea if it’s true or not– but I DO know that potty training my first son was a breeze.

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I put off potty training my toddler a little longer than I probably should– I think he was ready right when he turned 2, but, we just moved to Germany and he was adjusting to some pretty big changes, so I held off. And then some of my fears probably held me off a little longer after that– I believed that potty training would be a nightmare. I wasn’t ready for it. AT. ALL.

Seriously though, my son was out of diapers (during the day) and going pee/poop on the potty like a champ. I was stunned. He caught onto the whole potty training bit fairly fast and I’m here to share with you my tips that made the experience easy (for both of us) and how yes– it IS possible to potty-train a boy without ripping your hair out.

My Foolproof Potty Training Tips for Toddler Boys

 

1. Ask yourself: is your toddler ready?

Is your toddler really ready to potty train? Here are a few signs you can look for to figure out if it’s time to ditch the diapers:

  • shows interest in using the potty
  • tells you after he went poop in his diaper
  • has a dry diaper after nap time
  • knows the meaning of words like ‘potty’, ‘pee’, and ‘poop’

2. Buy big-boy underwear.

The very first step (obviously besides buying the actual potty) is to pick out some awesome and cool big boy underwear. Getting your toddler involved in picking out their very first pair of big boy undies can make this new transition an exciting one.

Explain to him that his big boy undies need to stay dry– that he can’t pee or poop in them– he does that on the potty, now. It helps to pick out some underwear with fun characters that your son LOVES. For example, my son is a PAW Patrol fanatic, and so he got so excited putting these on to wear (and keep dry!)

Amazon has a great deal on my son’s fav. PAW Patrol underwear.

 

3. No diapers during the day and ABSOLUTELY NO pull-ups.

We did the naked method– meaning, my son was naked basically the whole first day of training and he only wore diapers when he slept.

I hated the thought of using pull-ups…it was going to be an all-or-nothing thing for us, so those weren’t used, just the underwear. I did it this way because of two reasons:

Reason number 1: I didn’t want to confuse my toddler by putting a pull-up on him.

Reason number 2: Putting real underwear on my toddler let him understand that yes, if he goes pee/poop in his big boy underwear, it won’t feel nice!

 

4. Consistency and patience.

It will take a lot of consistency, especially the first 3 days, so keep persisting and most importantly, be patient.

I loaded my toddler with cups of liquid and constantly had him on the potty (even if he said that he didn’t need to go, he still sat on the potty to try) every 20 minutes. Like clock-work.

We love these Munchkin brand Miracle 360 sippy cups!

I also had to find patience (somewhere between the end of day 1 and the beginning of day 2, I can’t remember) because yes, this WILL get super frustrating. Just don’t give up!

 

5. Self-reward instead of treats.

Toddlers feel a huge sense of pride once they accomplish something on their own, so let them feel that!

I didn’t want to give my toddler candy or stickers just because he used the potty– I mean yes, it IS a big deal, and call me mean mommy but I wasn’t jiving with that. Instead, there was A LOT of praise, jumping up and down and high 5’s all around.

 

6. Buy your toddler a training urinal.

I waited far too long to do it, and I’m here to tell you, fellow toddler mama, to NOT WAIT ANYMORE.

This training urinal for boys is the real McCoy.

Best of all, my son loves this thing.

I’ve heard from several boy mamas that there toddler doesn’t pee standing up yet and wondering how to introduce that (besides uhm, watching dad). Lo and behold the training urinal.

Those are my foolproof potty training tips for toddler boys– they worked for me and didn’t leave me pulling out my hair!

Reply back to me and let me know if you tried any of my tips, I would also love to hear about any potty training questions you may have.

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Is it the Baby Blues or Postpartum Depression?

Hi there, new momma.

You are probably totally over-whelmed at the moment….perhaps you’re reading this right now at 2AM to pass the time away while nursing your new bundle of joy.

Or perhaps you’re awake crying because…well, hormones.

I get that– because I’ve been there.

 

 

I even talk about it on Scary Mommy.

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After my first son was born, I would sit up at odd hours of the night just crying. My hormones were everywhere; feelings of sadness, loneliness and isolation. I would burst out crying at the most random times and then feel totally normal. This craziness didn’t last too long, thank god, and after about two weeks I felt pretty normal.

So after I gave birth to my second son and those feelings not only didn’t go away but were more intense, I didn’t know what to do.

 

Why was it different this time?

I felt EXTREME feelings of depression, sadness, isolation, GUILT, ANGER, anxiety and a TOTAL lost of interest. It was like a smoke-cloud was put over my head. I was in a fog and I did the bare minimum to make it through the day. Even the SMALLEST task, like getting dressed or making dinner, felt like a marathon.

I thought back to how I felt after my first son was born– all of the crazy emotions and depression– but that was like a family member spending a two-week visit in my house. Here…then gone.

This time, my depression felt like a stranger invading my space, my mind and my body. And this stranger didn’t leave– no matter how much I begged her to.

 

 

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*I am in no way a doctor, therapist, psychiatrist or rocket scientist. I’m just a regular mom that has dealt with postpartum depression and therefore, I am sharing my own personal experience and diagnosis. If you or someone you love believes they have PPD, please reach out for help and see a doctor immediately.

 

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It wasn’t the baby blues.

The months leading up to my postpartum depression diagnosis, I believed that I had the baby blues; and the truth of it was, postpartum depression wasn’t something that I even heard of.  The generation before me, like my grandmother and mom, all referred to these feelings as the baby blues– but there’s actually a huge difference between the two.

The difference between the baby blues and postpartum depression.

*based on my own personal experience.

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Do any of these sound familiar to you?

If you are shaking your head yes and you identify more with the right side than the left, then I have something I want to say to you.

 

My message to you, mama.

If you believe that you’re suffering from postpartum depression, I want to tell you to PLEASE seek out help. I understand all of the feelings that you’re going through but mainly, the guilt. I get that.

I want to tell you to not let your guilt of feeling like a ‘bad mom’ get in the way of you asking for serious help. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to admit that this could probably be postpartum depression.

There are resources out there. There is hope!

Do you know what’s not okay?

It’s not okay to pretend like everything is fine when you feel like crumbling. It’s not okay to put your needs on the back-burner. It’s not okay to deprive your-self of happiness.

It’s smart to ask for help– your family will be forever grateful for it!

 

So mama, I hope this helped you out to distinguish between whether you believe to have the baby blues or postpartum depression.

One more thing to please remember.

Only YOU know how you are really feeling– if it’s been weeks and your feelings are getting worse, it’s not the baby blues. Seek out professional help because the longer you wait, the longer it will be to overcome your PPD. {again, I’ve been there.}

 

Stay strong, mama!

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