I Hope I Don’t Crush Their Spirit

I never thought I would be the angry mom.

I never thought I would become annoyed at the tiny things. Or impatient.

But I am. And it eats me up inside.

When I silently wish for them to hurry up with a task; when I unknowingly hurry them along with a story; when my voice sounds irrated because it’s the seventh-million time I heard “mom” in one day. I’m tired, I’m spent, I’m mentally, emotionally, physcially DRAINED. But it’s not their fault.

It’s not their fault and that makes it even worse.

I know I do it– I’m portraying annoyance and frustration. It’s all over my face. You can hear it in my voice. And as soon as it’s over, I pray to god that I don’t crush their spirit. I pray to god they walk away from my imperfections unscathed.

It’s so hard. It’s so SO hard. Mothering. Motherhood. Keeping these children alive, fed, busy, and all the in-between and behind-the-scene stuff that nobody, besides you, gets to see. The shit that people pretend doesn’t happen and nobody wants to deal with. The baby has a dirty diaper, the toddler is melting down over a candybar, the teen is having an attitude over nothing.

I often replay things that I say to my children and I want to cry. I realize how harsh I can come off or how I shouldn’t have lost my cool so easily. How can I do it differently next time? And I just hope I don’t crush their spirit…

Perhaps I’m being hard on myself; most of the time, as mothers, we are our own worse enemies. It’s true. I can never be the perfect mother or the calmest mother and I yell more than I should but, you know what?

I love them like nobody in this world can love them. Because I’m their mother. Despite imperfections, I try like hell to be the mother that they deserve.

Do I fall short? Hell yes. Most days, actually.

Is that normal? Hell yes. We are only human. Even mothers. As strong as we are, we are so imperfect. Which makes us perfect in our own way.

<3

 

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Incorporating Self-Care During the Holidays

The holiday season can be the most wonderful time of theeee year! And yet at the same time, it can be the most stressful. We try to enjoy the holiday season, but somehow, we also (feel like we need to) beat the rat race of catching up with all of our holiday tasks and we are left feeling tired (and stressed!) pssst, you don’t have to feel overwhelmed and maxed-out this year.

 

 

 

Do the holidays stress you out? How do you handle the hustle and bustle of the holiday season?

It may be hard, but you should still practice self-care during the holiday season. I know– it can be a bit hard to manage time for yourself when you are thinking about everyone else and possibly spending the month of December traveling– but making the time for yourself is easier once you make it a priority.

 

Let’s talk about how to make yourself a priority and how to incorporate self-care during the holiday season.

Can I ask you a question, mama? Does your routine go right out the window once the holiday season begins to approach? If you’re anything like me, well, my routine can get a bit lopsided with all the yummy foods and traveling that tend to occur around that special time of year.

I want you to live your best life this holiday season by incorporating more self-care into your daily life. It is possible!

 

 

Incorporating Self-Care During the Holidays

 

 

Hydrate

Incorporating Self-Care During the Holidays

Drink your h20… it’s crucial in feeling (and looking) your best. And it’s possibly the easiest thing you can do to incorporate self-care.

 

Work out

Incorporating Self-Care During the Holidays

Take a walk, go for a hike, practice some yoga, or stick to your gym regimen; whatever it is, you will be taking care of your body & mind, which may be the best self-care of all.

And perhaps a reason to eat one or two extra Christmas cookies.

 

Take a bath

Incorporating Self-Care During the Holidays

Perhaps one of my all-time favorite self-care things to do: taking a hot bath!

Soaking in a bath for just thirty-minutes is jam-packed with tons of health benefits…for your body and your mind.

 

Put on music and zone out

incorporating self-care during the holidays

Music makes me feel happy and it’s a good way to release stress. Crank up some of your fav tunes and zone out for a bit. Give your mind the needed break!

 

Meditate

Incorporating Self-Care During the Holidays

Meditiation may sound intimidating, but it’s amazing for the mind– for de-stressing, relaxing, and just being mindful, meditation is a great self-care tool.

I recently found an awesome meditation app called Headspace.

You guys, I think I’m hooked on this neat little app. I am super new to meditation (never could stick with it) but Headspace makes it easy to start off with short, three-mintue sessions

Put on hand lotion

Yesss…a little weird? Hear me out!

My hands are always so so dry in the winter (to the point where I start to pick at the dry skin by my fingers, ouch!) I need to make it a point to constantly smother my hands with lotion because let’s be honest, who really wants their hands to feel dry and scaly. Not this girl.

Pick up some hand lotion and get to pampering…preferably some lotion that smells nice and can leave your hands feeling super-soft.

 

Keep up with appointments

I know that this time of year is filled with so much craziness, but it’s not the time to skip out on appointments. Keeping up with your appointments is so important– whether for your mental health or physical health, make it a priority and just go.

 

Splurge on yourself

Whether it’s a new dress, a pair of earrings, or even a trip to paradise, splurge on yourself this year. Just do it! You’re worth it and you can use a spa-day, anyway.

 

Self-care is doable this holiday season, so mama, give yourself the BEST gift this year and make yourself a priority.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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How to Feel Better When You’re a Sleep-Deprived Mom

If I were to ask you, what is the number one thing that you miss pre-children, what would it be? I can guarantee that half of my moms out there would tell me the number one thing they desperately miss is sleep.

Are you shaking your head right now? Can you totally relate? I’m not surprised!

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How to Feel Better When You're a Sleep-Deprived Mom

 

My boys are 3 and 18 months and I’m still exhausted so I get you, mama. The truth is, the sleep-deprivation doesn’t go away when your baby hits toddler hood.

I know how tough it is in the beginning of motherhood– you’re experiencing so many new changes, (with your body and your new baby) you’re juggling this new normal, (whatever that may be) all while battling barely any sleep.

I’ve always heard people say that moms need to rest when they can, but in reality, that is just not happening– even when we know how crucial sleep is for our overall health.

 

How to Feel Better When You're a Sleep-Deprived Mom

 

Getting enough sleep isn’t just crucial but  it turns out, when we are sleep-deprived, it can drastically affect postpartum issues such as postpartum depression and anxiety and intensify the symptoms. Sleep-deprivation also leads to these other health issues:

  • high blood pressure
  • heart disease
  • obesity
  • diabetes
  • affects mood
  • problems with relationships

How to Feel Better When You're a Sleep-Deprived Mom

 

 

I will share with you how to feel better when you’re a sleep-deprived mom.

 

How to Feel Better When You're a Sleep-Deprived Mom

 

 

 

1. Sign up for a sleep program

 

Do you need help with getting your baby on a good sleep schedule? Is your 6 month-old still waking up several times during the night? Is your toddler waking up or taking short naps? Are you just about at your wit’s end because of exhaustion?

I may be able to help with that!

Now, ask yourself these questions:

  • Do you feel drained, overly emotional & irritable on a daily basis?
  • Are you anxious at bedtime, worrying about how much you’ll be up at night?
  • Is your marriage strained, because you have no energy for each other?
  • Do you get frustrated or impatient with your baby because you feel like you never get a break?

Signing up for a sleep program for your baby may be your answer to getting more Zzz’s at night time. I have teamed up with Jilly Blackenship from Baby Sleep Made Simple— a Mom as well as a Neonatal and Pediatric Intensive Care Registered Nurse to give tired mamas everywhere a chance to get a better night’s rest.

21 Days to Peace & Quiet may be for you!
for more information:

How to Feel Better When You're a Sleep-Deprived Mom

 

 

2. Take an epsom salt bath

A simple self-care love can do wonders when you feel down and out! My favorite go-to is to soak in a nice epsom salt bath.  I looooove Dr Teal’s epsom salt soaks, like these ones from Amazon.

These are my favorite epsom salts because essential oils {like lavender and eucalyptus} are already mixed in for an extra soothing experience.

 

How to Feel Better When You're a Sleep-Deprived Mom

 

 

3. Call a friend

It’s crucial to have a mom tribe– we all need a helping hand now and then– to call upon a trusted girlfriend and just say hey, I’m exhausted, Timmy has been running me ragged… send help {and wine!}

 

How to Feel Better When You're a Sleep-Deprived Mom

It’s the best when you can just unload on someone to help you out in times of need!

 

4. Eliminate the toxins from your life

When your already exhausted, even the littlest things can set you off– try to eliminate the toxins from your life so you can focus on yourself and your family.

Some small ways to eliminate toxins from your life are:

  • limiting social media
  • improving diet
  • cutting ties with non-supportive people
  • limiting alcohol/drugs/etc.

 

5. Eat a well-balanced diet

Eating a well-balanced diet can drastically improve the way you feel. This means…

  • cut out sugars/processed foods
  • cut out soda/sugary drinks
  • cut down on coffee/other caffeinated beverages
  • eating more veggies
  • getting enough protein and good fats
  • drinking at least 8 oz. of water a day

Not only will you begin to feel better, but you will gain more energy to keep up with your tiny human(s)!

 

6. Exercise

It may sound a little counterproductive, but fitting in at least thirty minutes of exercise per day can have you feeling energetic and just plain great. I realize how hard it can be to fit in a daily workout, but I’ve made it a priority to squeeze in some form of physical fitness 3-4 times per week.

 

How to Feel Better When You're a Sleep-Deprived Mom

 

Daily Burn offers amazing workouts that you can do {right in your home} and there are various fitness channels available on YouTube. Involve your baby. Get creative with it. You will feel better!

 

 

7. Meditate

Get out of your head for a little bit and meditate to feel better. In case you are totally new to meditation, Headspace is a cool app that offers guided meditation and psst, I heard meditation helps with insomnia.

 

 

How to Feel Better When You're a Sleep-Deprived Mom

 

8. Know your limits

Forget about all of those dirty dishes waiting in the sink or the mountain of laundry scattered on your sofa. It’s okay to not get it all done right now and it’s important to know your limits and rest.

Remember: your house will never be spotless again and that’s okay. Take care of your baby and yourself. Rest when you can and know that you are doing an awesome job!

 

I hope you enjoyed my tips on how to feel better when you’re a sleep-deprived mom and that you will use these tools to help yourself. What did you think of them? If you have any tips of your own, please leave a comment below.

 

 

 

 

 

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My Foolproof Potty Training Tips for Toddler Boys

Ever since I found out I was having a baby boy, one of the things that stuck in my head was: “potty training boys is SO MUCH harder than girls!” Obviously, I’m a boy mom of 2, so I have no idea if it’s true or not– but I DO know that potty training my first son was a breeze.

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I put off potty training my toddler a little longer than I probably should– I think he was ready right when he turned 2, but, we just moved to Germany and he was adjusting to some pretty big changes, so I held off. And then some of my fears probably held me off a little longer after that– I believed that potty training would be a nightmare. I wasn’t ready for it. AT. ALL.

Seriously though, my son was out of diapers (during the day) and going pee/poop on the potty like a champ. I was stunned. He caught onto the whole potty training bit fairly fast and I’m here to share with you my tips that made the experience easy (for both of us) and how yes– it IS possible to potty-train a boy without ripping your hair out.

My Foolproof Potty Training Tips for Toddler Boys

 

1. Ask yourself: is your toddler ready?

Is your toddler really ready to potty train? Here are a few signs you can look for to figure out if it’s time to ditch the diapers:

  • shows interest in using the potty
  • tells you after he went poop in his diaper
  • has a dry diaper after nap time
  • knows the meaning of words like ‘potty’, ‘pee’, and ‘poop’

2. Buy big-boy underwear.

The very first step (obviously besides buying the actual potty) is to pick out some awesome and cool big boy underwear. Getting your toddler involved in picking out their very first pair of big boy undies can make this new transition an exciting one.

Explain to him that his big boy undies need to stay dry– that he can’t pee or poop in them– he does that on the potty, now. It helps to pick out some underwear with fun characters that your son LOVES. For example, my son is a PAW Patrol fanatic, and so he got so excited putting these on to wear (and keep dry!)

Amazon has a great deal on my son’s fav. PAW Patrol underwear.

 

3. No diapers during the day and ABSOLUTELY NO pull-ups.

We did the naked method– meaning, my son was naked basically the whole first day of training and he only wore diapers when he slept.

I hated the thought of using pull-ups…it was going to be an all-or-nothing thing for us, so those weren’t used, just the underwear. I did it this way because of two reasons:

Reason number 1: I didn’t want to confuse my toddler by putting a pull-up on him.

Reason number 2: Putting real underwear on my toddler let him understand that yes, if he goes pee/poop in his big boy underwear, it won’t feel nice!

 

4. Consistency and patience.

It will take a lot of consistency, especially the first 3 days, so keep persisting and most importantly, be patient.

I loaded my toddler with cups of liquid and constantly had him on the potty (even if he said that he didn’t need to go, he still sat on the potty to try) every 20 minutes. Like clock-work.

We love these Munchkin brand Miracle 360 sippy cups!

I also had to find patience (somewhere between the end of day 1 and the beginning of day 2, I can’t remember) because yes, this WILL get super frustrating. Just don’t give up!

 

5. Self-reward instead of treats.

Toddlers feel a huge sense of pride once they accomplish something on their own, so let them feel that!

I didn’t want to give my toddler candy or stickers just because he used the potty– I mean yes, it IS a big deal, and call me mean mommy but I wasn’t jiving with that. Instead, there was A LOT of praise, jumping up and down and high 5’s all around.

 

6. Buy your toddler a training urinal.

I waited far too long to do it, and I’m here to tell you, fellow toddler mama, to NOT WAIT ANYMORE.

This training urinal for boys is the real McCoy.

Best of all, my son loves this thing.

I’ve heard from several boy mamas that there toddler doesn’t pee standing up yet and wondering how to introduce that (besides uhm, watching dad). Lo and behold the training urinal.

Those are my foolproof potty training tips for toddler boys– they worked for me and didn’t leave me pulling out my hair!

Reply back to me and let me know if you tried any of my tips, I would also love to hear about any potty training questions you may have.

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5 Essential Oils That Moms Use to Battle Stress

I love essential oils. I know, it’s crazy—  I never expected to be so into the whole oily thing but once I tried them, I wonder why I was always so against them. Really. They can do wonders, ESPECIALLY to help fight off the moodies and the stress life. Aka Mom Life.

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I’m always on the hunt for (natural) ways to help reduce my stress…. and essential oils may be the best tool for that. I found 5 oily moms and I asked them which essential oils that they recommend to help battle off stress.

But first….

 let’s get to the very basics.

What are essential oils?

An essential oil is a natural product extracted from a single plant species. Not all plants produce essential oils but the plants that do, the essential oil may be found in the roots, stems and leaves. Once the aromatic chemicals have been extracted, they are combined with a carrier oil to create a product that’s ready for use. *healthline.com

Essential oils are concentrated plant extracts that retain the natural smell and flavor, or “essence,” of their source.

 

How to use essential oils.

There are quite a few ways that you can use essential oils (contrary to what I used to believe, it does not include slapping some oil onto your body).

 

On your body.

When applying essential oils on your body, use a carrier oil.

It’s always a good idea to avoid putting an essential oil straight on your body– using a carrier oil will help avoid skin sensitivities because an essential oil alone is too strong to use straight.

I choose coconut oil as my carrier oil when applying essential oils on my kids or myself.

 

Diffuse them.

Buying an essential oil diffuser  was the best decision I made last winter. My kids went through bouts of the ickies, and diffusing oils like orange and oregano helped shorten the duration of their colds by so much.

Diffusing oils is a great way to have your home smelling amazing– without all of the yucky chemicals that candles or scented wax have.

Here is my favorite oil diffuser that is under $20! I use this in the our bedrooms.

 

Clean with them.

Ditch those yucky chemicals, because you can also clean with essential oils.

I use lemon essential oil in my steam mop, orange to polish wood surfaces and oregano to disinfect.

Okay, now let’s get to the good stuff.

 

 

5 Essential Oils That Moms Use to Battle Stress

 

 

 

 

1. Ylang-ylang/  YL ‘Peace and Calming’

5 Essential Oils That Moms Use to Battle Stress

Andrea says:

“ylang ylang is one of the key ingredients in Young Living’s “peace and calming” which is one of my favorite anti-stress oils.. when i have sleep problems it usually zonks me right out when diffused. So i pulled YY out of it because studies have shown it’s a great anxiety reducer and started using it specifically for stress/anxiety mixed with other complementing oils like Lavender or Tangerine”

you can purchase YL’s Peace and Calming below:

 

 

2.Peppermint/eucalyptus mix

5 Essential Oils That Moms Use to Battle Stress

Jamie says:

“This mix also takes my migraines away!”

you can purchase peppermint essential here here:

you can purchase eucalyptus essential oil here:

 

 

3. Orange

5 Essential Oils That Moms Use to Battle Stress

Molly says:

“Smelling orange essential oils gives me an instant boost of happiness. Orange smells cheery and clean and vibrant to me. I associate it with good memories of eating oranges fresh from trees in Florida as a child.”

you can purchase orange essential oil here:

 

 

4. Rose

5 Essential Oils That Moms Use to Battle Stress

Genni says:

“Rose essential oil is another fav. It’s feminine smell is known to elevate the mind and create a sense of well-being!”

you can purchase rose essential oil below:

 

5. Citrus mix {bergamot, orange, lime, grapefruit and lemon oil}

5 Essential Oils That Moms Use to Battle Stress

Jennifer says:

“I use a blend called Cheer up Buttercup with bergamot, orange, lime, grapefruit and lemon essential oils. It’s the combo of stopping to apply, then breathing in the sent to focus on positive thoughts.”

you can purchase the CHEER UP BUTTERCUP blend here:

 

So there you have it– 5 essential oils that moms use to battle stress. Will you try any of these? Let me know in the comments!

 

*Resource:
Healthline.com- What Are Essential Oils and Do They Work? https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/what-are-essential-oils#section1

 

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