I know you’ve had those days– you’re exhausted, stressed to the max, have a billion things on your plate, the kids are too much to take on and it’s not even noon yet.
Oh, do I get that.
I’m a stay at home mom and I feel like I never get a break from my kids because well, I don’t! I’m constantly making sure someone is well taken care of– meeting everyone else’s needs before my own– and it all can be way too much at times.
But you need to practice self-care.
Have you read my self-care for those that suffer from depression post?
Believe me, I know how difficult it can be to squeeze in a whole ten minutes alone just for yourself. And let’s face it, that is not always realistic. So you put it off. But you’re still stressed out and still in desperate need of a break.
And then like that, it happens– before you even realize it, you reached that point where you can no longer do it anymore. Maybe you are suffering from postpartum depression, you’re a new time mom, or you’re just having a terrible week– we’ve all had those points in motherhood when we just need a break.
Please check out my postpartum resources list.
So you’ve realized that you are at your breaking point and you desperately need help– what can you do?
I am going to share with you a few ways in which you can reach out for help.
Realize it’s perfectly okay to ask for help.
It takes a village isn’t just a corny saying, but the truth! It really does take a whole village to help shape and mold children and once we realize that we can’t do it alone, the healthier we can be.
Don’t wait until you’re on your last string.
We can almost always realize when we are starting to burn out– you know yourself better than anyone– so don’t wait until you are at that point. You know what I mean. The point where you are hazy and feel like screaming because you are so pent up with frustration. Recognize where your at and reach out before you’re on your last string of patience.
Have a mom tribe.
It’s so essential to have at least one other person that can be there for you– other moms get the struggles and when you have someone you can depend on, it makes reaching out so much easier.
Use the resources available to you.
Thankfully, mental health awareness has come a long way– meaning there are resources out there made readily available to you.
Take the help you get offered.
If someone offers to babysit while you run to the grocery store or take a cat nap, then do it. Honestly! The people that are willing to help you are a God send.
Faceboook messenger and text can save you.
Nowadays, we are all tuned into technology and social media that even the most introverted human can open up to others. Use this to your advantage to open up to others when you need it most.
Just say it.
Sometimes, we can be uncomfortable talking about the heavy stuff, and we sometimes feel like we don’t want to burden others with our problems.
Some of us may also feel like bad moms for opening up about postpartum depression or needed some time away from the kids.
I actually wrote a post that talk about some of the reasons why moms don’t speak up about postpartum depression.
Take a deep breath and just say that you need a little bit of help. There is someone who can help you!
Do you have a friend that is struggling with postpartum depression?
read my post on how to help your friend, right here.
I hope this helped you to become more confident in reaching out when you’re at your breaking point. We got this, mama.